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How to Write Your Own Wedding Vows

A simple structure for writing wedding vows you'll actually be able to read out loud.

A structure that works

  • Who they are to you — one honest sentence.
  • One specific memory. Specific beats poetic every time.
  • What you promise. Three to five promises is plenty.
  • What you're committing to, in your own words.

Practical rules

  • Agree on length together — one minute each is a good target.
  • Agree on tone. One tearful, one comedic is a rough combination.
  • Write them on a card. Phones die and hands shake.
  • Read them out loud before the day. Written words and spoken words are different animals.

If writing them feels impossible, repeat-after-me vows are a completely respectable choice, and we can help draft vows as part of a custom ceremony.

So… which one is your wedding?

A $150 paperwork wedding, or a ceremony built for the two of you.